The agreements you make with yourself and with other people enable you to consistently get your needs met.
When we are in a disempowered state of mind, we end up making a lot of agreements that may not be in our best interest, but we do them anyways.
As you refine your life with Dejora, and become more empowered, your needs will change and past agreements you have made won’t serve you the same way anymore.
Realizing this can induce a negative emotional state that can make you want to break your agreement abruptly.
When inside of a highly emotional perspective, it is easy to sabotage yourself because you lose sight of the overall picture and your long term goals.
Translating the emotion brings calmness, enabling your perspective to open up and see the big picture again.
The new information from translating the emotion will empower you to redefine your agreement so that it is in alignment with your current needs.
Changing current agreements with people can often lead to confrontation. The idea of having to confront someone with a big change can be scary.
Dejora can be used to translate this emotion as well, providing deeper insights into why this change is important for you.
It is never recommended to confront someone about changing an agreement while you are still in an emotional state. If you have still have emotion, that means you don’t have all the information that you need to make this agreement change smooth.
The quality of your interaction is always going to be lower if you are still emotional going into it. Remember, there is no rush, even if it feels like it because of the emotion.
The most important part of this whole process is you getting your needs met, so make sure you take the time for yourself to translate all of the emotion first. This is the first and most important step to getting your needs met.
Once you are clear on what you need to change in your agreement and you feel solid about it, you will be able to effectively communicate your needs with the people involved.
The way that you handle yourself while you communicate is a major factor for how the entire interaction will play out.
If you feel solid in yourself and you have translated all of the emotion, even if the other person freaks out, you will remain calm, attentive and understanding of what the person says. This is compassion and it feels amazing.
Being able to be compassionate towards another person requires that you are in an empowered state of mind and feel solid about who you are.
If you can refine your past agreements and manage to be in this state of mind, congratulations, you are on your way to building a very high quality life.